12 Black Friday Etiquette Tips

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For diehard shoppers, Black Friday is the Super Bowl of the year. But with the crowds, limited quantities and fatigue from waking up in the middle of the night, fights are bound to happen and almost always do. Can Black Friday actually be civil and enjoyable?

Jacqueline Whitmore, an internationally-recognized etiquette expert, author, speaker and founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach, says yes, if shoppers follow proper protocol.

Her 12 tips to a great Black Friday:

Have a plan. Give yourself plenty of time to get to the store and secure your place in line. Have your list ready before the doors open.

Practice patience. Anticipate long lines. Complaining will not make the lines move any faster. Eat breakfast, stay hydrated and wear comfortable shoes. Being organized will eliminate a lot of stress.

Make friends with your neighbors in line. They may know about some great deals or share their coupons with you.

Be courteous to employees. Remember, they got up extra early just like you. Make an extra effort to give a warm smile and say “please” and “thank you.”

Stay positive. Don’t allow others’ grumpy attitudes to rub off on you. Move away from shoppers who are complaining, yelling or screaming.

Don’t be a hoarder. Only take items you may want or need.

Wait your turn. Don’t stand in line for others or ask someone to hold your spot so you can go shop elsewhere. Avoid pushing and shoving the people around you.

Refrain from talking loudly on your cell phone while you wait. Have your cash or credit card handy when you reach the register. This will expedite the checkout process.

Allow others to pass in the aisles. Help someone who is looking for an item if you happen to know where it is.

Observe store rules. Honor the advertised limits and don’t expect the cashier to make any exceptions for you. Don’t make a scene at the register if you disagree with the cashier.

Have fun. You may not get every item on your list but be grateful for the deals you do receive. If the store doesn’t have what you want, don’t gripe to the sales associate or the manager.

Watch for other drivers and pedestrians when pulling into or out of parking spaces. Don’t take up more than one parking space and remember to return shopping carts to designated cart corral areas.

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Keep Talking to Your Kids After Divorce

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As a divorced parent you can never pay too much attention to your communication skills with your children. It keeps the doors open to a healthier, more positive relationship with them. It makes you more sensitive to issues of concern early on so you can nip them in the bud. It encourages your children to talk about what they are feeling, questions they have and situations that are creating conflict for them.

Don’t sit down and say, let’s talk. Find comfortable times and places where conversation can flow naturally and easily. Then bring up related subjects in a casual way. Watching TV or movies at home can often be a catalyst for valuable conversation. Driving in the car together can also be a time of discussion, questions and sharing feelings.

Here are some tips that can help you ease into more productive communication with your kids.

• Asking why can be intimidating and close off your conversation. Instead ask what happened questions which keep the dialogue open. Then move into talking about feelings which provide insights into what’s really going on with your child. Validate their right to their feelings, even if you’re uncomfortable hearing about them. When they feel safe in expressing their emotions, you’ll get real clues as to how your divorce is affecting them – and whether there are changes taking place worthy of your special attention.

• Be patient. Don’t react or respond until you get the full message. Sometimes it takes some meandering for your child to reach the crucial point of what they want to say. Don’t coax – or shut them off too soon!

• Remember that preaching, moralizing or “parenting” comments can put up barriers to clear communication. Listening is your most valuable skill and tool. Then paraphrase back what you’re hearing to make sure you are getting it right. “So you were annoyed at dad for forgetting to call you last night,” is far different from saying, “I don’t blame you for being angry at dad. He’s so undependable.”

• Watch your judgments and put-downs, even with upsetting information. Don’t belittle your children, call them names or insult their behaviors. Talk to them – not at them! The difference is felt as respect. Be careful never to put down or disrespect your child’s other parent in your conversations, as tempting as that may be at times. Keep your kids out of the divorce drama as much as possible. That’s when real emotional damage is done.

• Acknowledge your children for coming to you or sharing with you. Praise their braveness. If you were at fault, apologize honestly and discuss how you can make changes for the future. Sometimes post-divorce parent-child communication can be a very slow process as you rebuild trust and a sense of security within them.

• Show that you accept and love them – even when their behaviors are not acceptable. Then help them come up with some acceptable solutions they can understand and feel good about. Support and positive role modeling go a long way toward influencing your children in the right direction.

Put yourself in your child’s place and you will likely make wiser decisions when it comes to talking about sensitive areas in their life. Afraid to talk about touchy subjects? Get some help from a counselor. Good parents know it’s essential to talk to your children and be there for them when they need you – especially when they’re reluctant to start the conversation. Don’t let them down!

rosalind-sedacca-cctRosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Divorce & Parenting Coach, founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network and author of the internationally acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love! For her free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting: Success Strategies for Getting It Right! along with free articles on child-centered divorce and other valuable resources for parents, go to: www.childcentereddivorce.com.

 

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5 Tips for Hiring a Babysitter

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How to Deal With Tantrums

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Divorced? 4 Valuable Life Lessons to Master Now

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