Eight Things Remarkably Successful People Do

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I was recently in a conversation with another business owner.  We were talking about how hard it is to run your own business.  I often feel exhausted at the end of the day and wonder why- then it dawned on me- it’s hard, it’s a lot of work and we consciously or unconsciously can make or break the success of an organization which impacts everyone around you- staff, family, clients, etc.  Poor management, bad financial decisions, lack of integrity, misperceptions because of miscommunications all can erode a company and in essence jeopardized the success of the organization.  Therefore it is imperative that good decisions be made day in and day out.  This, in and of itself, can be exhausting because quick or rash decision are not feasible.  In my reflection of this I began thinking of what successful people do to create sustainability.  I started digging around for advice and happened upon an article from Jeff Haaden in Inc. magazine titled “8 things remarkably successful people do.”  It struck a chord with me and I hope it does for you.  Burnout can happen but motivation can help squelch burnout.

1. They don’t create back-up plans. Back-up plans can help you sleep easier at night. Back-up plans can also create an easy out when times get tough. You’ll work a lot harder and a lot longer if your primary plan simply has to work because there is no other option. Total commitment–without a safety net–will spur you to work harder than you ever imagined possible. If somehow the worst does happen (and the “worst” is never as bad as you think) trust that you will find a way to rebound. As long as you keep working hard and keep learning from your mistakes, you always will.

2. They do the work. You can be good with a little effort. You can be really good with a little more effort. But you can’t be great–at anything–unless you put in an incredible amount of focused effort. Scratch the surface of any person with rare skills and you’ll find a person who has put thousands of hours of effort into developing those skills. There are no shortcuts. There are no overnight successes. Everyone has heard about the 10,000 hours principle but no one follows it… except remarkably successful people. So start doing the work now. Time is wasting.

3. …and they work a lot more. Every extremely successful entrepreneur I know works more hours than the average person–a lot more. They have long lists of things they want to get done. So they have to put in lots of time.

Better yet, they want to put in lots of time. If you don’t embrace a workload others would consider crazy then your goal doesn’t mean that much to you–or it’s not particularly difficult to achieve. Either way you won’t be remarkably successful.

4. They avoid the crowds. Conventional wisdom yields conventional results. Joining the crowd–no matter how trendy the crowd or “hot” the opportunity–is a recipe for mediocrity. Remarkably successful people habitually do what other people won’t do. They go where others won’t go because there’s a lot less competition and a much greater chance for success.

5. They start at the end. Average success is often based on setting average goals. Decide what you really want: to be the best, the fastest, the cheapest, the biggest, whatever. Aim for the ultimate. Decide where you want to end up. That is your goal. Then you can work backwards and lay out every step along the way. Never start small where goals are concerned. You’ll make better decisions–and find it much easier to work a lot harder–when your ultimate goal is ultimate success.

6. … and they don’t stop there. Achieving a goal–no matter how huge–isn’t the finish line for highly successful people. Achieving one huge goal just creates a launching pad for achieving another huge goal. Maybe you want to create a $100 million business; once you do you can leverage your contacts and influence to create a charitable foundation for a cause you believe in. Then your business and humanitarian success can create a platform for speaking, writing, and thought leadership. The process of becoming remarkably successful in one field will give you the skills and network to be remarkably successful in many other fields. Remarkably successful people don’t try to win just one race. They expect and plan to win a number of subsequent races.

7. They sell. I once asked a number of business owners and CEOs to name the one skill they felt contributed the most to their success. Each said the ability to sell. Keep in mind selling isn’t manipulating, pressuring, or cajoling. Selling is explaining the logic and benefits of a decision or position. Selling is convincing other people to work with you. Selling is overcoming objections and roadblocks. Selling is the foundation of business and personal success: knowing how to negotiate, to deal with “no,” to maintain confidence and self-esteem in the face of rejection, to communicate effectively with a wide range of people, to build long-term relationships. When you truly believe in your idea, or your company, or yourself then you don’t need to have a huge ego or a huge personality. You don’t need to “sell.” You just need to communicate.

8. They are never too proud. To admit they made a mistake. To say they are sorry. To have big dreams. To admit they owe their success to others. To poke fun at themselves. To ask for help. To fail. And to try again.

Carey Book PhotoCarey Baker and her husband, Brett, launched Part-Time Pros in March of 2008 aimed at giving professionals flexibility in the workplace, filling a much-needed niche in the Tulsa area. Six years later, their innovative business continues to grow and has been renamed ProRecruiters to better represent the broad range of their services.

In 2012, Carey wrote her first book “Hire a Pro/Be a Pro” to offer advice on how to hire and keep the best employees, as well as, how to be the employee that companies want to keep. In addition, Carey won a Tulsey Award in 2012 for her commitment to entrepreneurism.

Prior to opening ProRecruiters, Carey worked for Chapman Foundations Management, Advisory Board Company and The Williams Companies. Carey is currently serving as the 2014 chair of the Small Business Council for the Tulsa Regional Chamber. Carey lives in Tulsa with her husband Brett and their two daughters.

Stalker Parents Unite! Coming Together for Cyber Safety

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Kim Beair, MS, LPC, NCC & Dr. Kara Beair-Butler, DO
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There are positive and negative uses for social media, and this morning I saw one of the best I’ve come across in a long time. Strolling through Facebook posts, a friend inquired if she should approve her young daughter’s request for an Instagram account. As you can imagine, there were opinions flying from all directions.

The best answers and responses had to do with safety, authority, and parental networking. I threw in some developmental ideas, and we were on our way to great solutions to be shared with you today.

Overall, it was agreed that children and adolescents need to be monitored constantly on their social media accounts, and it is preferable to have a parent be the administrator of the accounts, based on the child’s age and other factors. One parent shared that while all safety issues were in place, her child’s friend suggested there be a secret profile, and off the student went behind her parents’ backs to accomplish that task. Thankfully, another watchdog parent tipped off the parent in the dark. A quick look at the child’s phone showed a whole new account. This is how inappropriate content and connections begin. Simply policing accounts from a computer does nothing to show what is on your child’s phone, or potentially another friend’s computer, or any other device that might be laying around.

This is where social and parental networking come in. Within every school, church and arts or athletic group, there are parents who provide a different angle or reach within the kid community. Some parents are online more, some parents get updated scoop from their own kids or other sources, and some parents are more connected with the personnel that interact with kids every day.

So how does this impact respect, privacy, and growing up? It impacts it greatly. Is it snooping? Maybe, maybe not – you be the judge. The fact is, we as parents and grandparents need to remember the world is different than it was for us. Years ago parents only had physical parameters to monitor in terms of predators and other dangers. These days, predators and other dangers come into your home virtually, track the locations of your loved ones, and have access into your lives in ways you may not be aware of.

The key to doing this right, is all in the way you set it up. First, let your kids know the ground rules for all their behavior, both in person and on the internet. If they want to use the devices and home (internet service) you are paying for, then they have to follow your rules. Write down the rules and consequences, and have them sign a “family contract” just to make it unforgettable. What to do if your child pays for their own devices? Remember that until they are 18, you still make the rules because you are legally responsible for them. Let them know the police can impound a car if it is misused, and that is what you will do as a parent if they misuse their electronic communication privileges.

Let your kids know you will be on all their accounts as an administrator. If you feel they are old enough to handle their own accounts, until they are 18, and/or pay for all their bills themselves (including college tuition), you will be a “friend” on their accounts and will be watching. Let them know you belong to an extensive network of people, and they will be watching as well. Let them know they are never to turn on any location services unless you are made aware, and that they should never post their whereabouts online without your permission. This includes not allowing posts until reviewed, so someone else doesn’t tag them revealing their whereabouts without your knowledge. There are other rules you as a family can make, so make them fit for you.

Kids should know right from the start this has nothing to do with your trust, or distrust of them. They should know it is not a commentary on their maturity, intelligence or intentions. Let them know that developmentally there are things that only come with biological age, and second guessing the minds of predators and con artists doesn’t generally come until later in life. Though your child may take every precaution imaginable, those actions do not lead to an understanding of the workings of a criminally deviant mind. Let them know even you may not be aware of everything you need to be aware of, but between all of you, you can teach each other. Kids have perspectives and knowledge of online activities parents may not have – this should truly be a family pursuit.

Though your kids know that you and your cyber stalker safety parent network is watching, never tell them where you got your information. If you catch them doing something against the rules, state what the infraction is, and the consequence. The original contract you made should state that when an infraction is uncovered, as a parent, you are not required to let your child know how you found out, and it won’t even be discussed. Then administer the consequences you have decided upon in the beginning. One other note, it is important to let kids of all ages know that the contract is subject to revision if necessary. This does not mean you change the contract daily. It means that a few reviews each year is advisable, and you will act accordingly.

If you structure this correctly, you will be modeling good online behavior from which your kids can learn. If you are getting pushback from your kids related to this, and you cannot seem to overcome it, enlist the help of a counselor. Many counselors will see you one or two times related to issues such as this. You can also contact a local church or behavioral health clinic or hospital and ask them to put on a workshop related to this topic that you and your kids can attend. Organizations are always looking for ways to reach out to the community, so make your request!

KimJBF(1)KaraJBFKim Beair, MS, LPC, NCC is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Oklahoma and National Certified Counselor

Dr. Kara Beair-Butler, DO, is a mom of multiples, and Chief Resident Physician in Internal Medicine/Pediatrics at the University Of Oklahoma School Of Community Medicine

DISCLAIMER:  The information presented in this email or blog and any related links is provided for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. You must never consider any of the information presented here as a substitute for consulting with your physician or health care provider for any medical/mental health conditions or concerns. Any information presented here is general information, is not medical advice, nor is it intended as advice for your personal situation. Please consult with your physician or health care provider if you have concerns about your health or suspect that you might have a problem.

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