Returning to School After Divorce: How To Help Your Kids!

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Returning to school after their parents have separated or divorced can be difficult for any child. You can ease the transition, however, by making the school your ally. This will open the door to the many resources available to you through the school. The key here is in forming a cooperative relationship with key personnel.

Making your child’s teachers aware of a major change in your home environment is helpful both for them and your child. That’s because school is really a second home for children in our culture.

Regardless of their age, children can’t be expected to turn off their emotions during or after a divorce any more than their parents can. Fear, insecurity, shame, guilt and other emotions are usually triggered when a parental marriage ends. These complex feelings can affect a child’s focus, self-esteem, relationships with their friends as well as their academic performance.

Many children trust and feel safe with their teachers. By talking to the teacher in advance and explaining the status of your post-divorce arrangements, you can go a long way toward helping your child feel more secure or less alone.

Here are some tips for making the most of your school system and professional educators:

A compassionate teacher can keep an eye open for signs of distress or depression in your child. You can provide some messages for the teacher to share should they feel it appropriate to talk with your child about their feelings. A trusted teacher can remind your child that he or she is not at fault … that they aren’t the only students at school who are going through these challenging times … and that life will move back into a more comfortable place before too long. This can be helpful in reinforcing prior conversations you’ve already had with your child. It also reassures your child that the divorce is not a big shameful secret. It can be discussed candidly and openly without shame.

It’s also wise to speak with your child’s guidance counselors. These professionals are trained to handle challenging circumstances and can be an ally who you and your family can count on for support and suggestions. The key here is to bring these educators onto your team on behalf of your child. With their eyes open, it will be easier to detect signs of depression, aggression or other behavior changes that need to be brought to your attention and discussed as soon as possible.

Some schools offer support groups for children coping with divorce issues. It can be very helpful for children to talk to one another, sharing their fears and other anxieties during or after the divorce. Knowing they’re not alone, that they’re accepted and that others are facing or have experienced the same type of family dynamics gives children a sense of belonging. It’s also an opportunity to vent and make new friends with children who can empathize with them. The less alone a child feels, the better they are able to accept the challenges they will be facing in the weeks and months ahead.

Talk to your child before sending them back to school. Discuss any changes in routine or scheduling they can expect. Also let them know whom they can talk to at school if they are feeling sad or have questions about adapting to life at school post-divorce. School can be your child’s best friend at this time – and a great support system for your family – if you take advantage of all the resources available.

Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Divorce & Parenting Coach, founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network and author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love! For Rosalind’s free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting, coaching services, articles and other valuable resources on divorce and parenting issues, go to: www.childcentereddivorce.com.

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Study Habits For Your Kids

With school starting up, it’s important for your child to keep up with their work at school and even more importantly their homework. Your child is responsible for their grades, not you. It’s time to teach them good study habits early, so that later, they will not struggle. We’ve compiled a few techniques that you can use to help your child during homework hour!

 

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Pick a designated study area. This area should be quiet and free of distractions such as animals or a TV. Picking a peaceful study area helps with the studying process. Your child will be more likely to focus on the tasks in front of them instead of the news playing in the background. Also picking a study area early shows your child which rooms are for play and which rooms are for working.

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Flashcards: I cannot stress this enough! Flashcards are super handy when it comes to studying for spelling or vocabulary tests. They are much easier to manage than a big bulky textbook as well. You can find flashcards at any local shopping center. There are big cards, little cards, lined cards, and even colorful cards. The Scholastic explains how to make flashcards go even further than just a definition. So go ahead and grab a couple of packs of flashcards to get your child ready for the semester!

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Snacks: Another important topic. In order to develop good study habits, snacks are to be kept away from the study area. I know that sounds harsh, but it will only help your child. Keeping snacks around or in the study area can easily cause distractions to your child. It’s unnecessary, excessive munching and it can cause a mess on the homework. Of course, you can always prepare a snack for your child to eat as soon as they get home. For longer study times, give them a break snack. Another tip, keep snacks on the healthier side to give your child brain food and also so the snack won’t spoil dinner. Let your child have a break, especially if it’s in a subject that frustrates them. Frustrations not only make your child feel bad, but can stifle the homework process. Keep your child calm with breaks and a quick snack.

Hope these ideas are helpful!

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